“Always start with Gratitude!” Redux

 

 

It is important during this week of Thanksgiving to once again return to this ageless, and difficult idea…. To “always start with gratitude.”  My long-term friend and partner in business Cathy would push to remind me of this often… not only this week of the year.  She and I have known each other and worked closely together since 1996… partnering together during our years at Coke, and most recently at Bolthouse Farms.  Over the years (literally decades) we have dealt with numerous challenging moments and regardless of topic or season, Cathy would often remind me to “start with gratitude.”  In many of those moments it seemed that “gratitude” was the LAST place to start… you know, anger and denial (and maybe some yelling/venting) usually come first but Cathy was and is so correct.  Regardless of the circumstance, the emotions of the moment, or the seeming enormity of the challenges, I have learned that starting with appreciation, humility and “gratitude” are ALWAYS the best first moves.

 

In my life I am grateful for so many things and they begin and end with my family.  I am so fortunate to have a great marriage with Jennie, and two outstanding kids (now young adults in their 20’s) Bryson & Marie.  That clear and strong foundation is beyond important in my life, and I work hard to not take it for granted.  I am fortunate to have deep and close friends that have literally spanned my life, and while tempted to detail all the names (beyond Cathy of course), I want to share a few vignettes that brings this to life.

 

It was literally a month ago when I went back to my hometown of Murrysville Pa. to visit two of my oldest and closest friends… Jimmy and Dave.  A few hours after I arrived, Dave started suffering terrific abdominal pain and we headed to the emergency room.  After a long night of scans and tests, he needed to be admitted to the hospital and have gall bladder surgery on a following day.  It was a scary time, but the surgery was successful, and Dave is home and doing very well… and I am very grateful!  I am thankful that Jimmy and I were there physically to get him to the hospital and to be with him during those scary and painful early hours.  I am thankful for a talented surgeon that did his work well, and thankful for incredible nurses that took care of our friend Dave until he could come home. While scary in hindsight, I am deeply “grateful” on so many fronts!

 

Another moment happened literally a week or so ago when three close friends from my Bolthouse Farms world, Todd, Phil and David all found their way east for a quick trip to the cabin.  While there were a lot of laughs and stories,( and a few card games by the fire) it was nourishing to MY spirit to have that time with the three of them… all at different places in their lives and careers, all facing different challenges/issues, yet I was so deeply grateful that they are actively in my life and that we had that special time together!  I know that we will stay close for years (hopefully decades) to come and again I am deeply “grateful” for those deep friendships.

 

A final vignette literally occurred yesterday, as I was dropping off Chicken Noodle Soup to my father-in-law Don.  I often cook on Sundays and usually make a bit extra to share with my 87-year-old father-in-law who lives around the corner.  I stopped by late in the afternoon and as I went into his home, I realized that my father-in-law (who is an incredible musician) was not alone and I was introduced to a violinist standing nearby with his instrument.  Don suggested that I drop the soup in the kitchen and take a seat as they “sight read” a Mozart suite for piano and violin.  It was INCREDIBLE… the beauty of the music, the talent of these two musicians, the brilliance of Mozart all in the living room of Don’s townhouse down the street… what a grateful surprise!!  At 87, I don’t know how many more years we will have the treasure of Don in our lives, but I am deeply “grateful” that we have it now!

 

As I close, I reflect that coming out of the recent elections, in such a divided country, we have large communities struggling to find this a season of “gratitude.”  With a Harris/Walz 2024” sign in our front yard, I am part of that community challenged by the road ahead.  Regardless of those challenges… or maybe amplified by them…. It’s possibly time to be more “grateful” than ever!  The road ahead will certainly have its issues and challenges, and it will REQUIRE all of us to WORK hard on a wide range of topics… and with a “grateful” headset, we can all get to work more effectively, stay hopeful and optimistic more consistently, and to always be reminded while we can’t affect the past, we have an infinite ability to make tomorrow better than yesterday…. all fueled by a “grateful” spirit!!

 

Happy Thanksgiving to all!

p.s. over the 15+ years that I have been writing this blog, I have touched on the theme of "Gratitude" in numerous essays.... maybe a theme that needs constant reinforcement!  

The first essay on this topic was from 2013, take a look if you want to see more:  https://fylegacy.blogspot.com/2013/05/gratitude-key-to-happiness.html